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summer07 asked:


I am in my mid 20s and I want to start having kids before I’m in my 30s. (especially since my mom had tons of pregnancy complications by her mid 30s, and reached early menopause by 39 or 40!) I was angry when people told me I “wasn’t ready” and should “get an abortion” when I was pregnant 2 yrs ago. The reason I was angry was because I was being a responsible frugal person yet people still didn’t see me to be as “good enough” at becomming a mom as other ‘expecting’ people approx my age. When I miscarried, I was hurt that I wasn’t able to “meet” my baby and also prove how capable I truly felt I was. Since then, I’ve worked my **** off to become more prepared than ever for the next time I hopefully fall pregnant. Here’s what I’ve done so far:

- have an HMO insurance plan with maternity coverage
- have a full-time office job a part-time second job for extra cash
- kept up with my bills, and paid off debt and loans several years early
- have a college degree (well, actually this was completed even before my miscarriage in 06)
- I am conservative with living expenses — e.g., I take mass transit despite having more than 1 running car, my electric bill rarely exceeds $25/mo, I shop the bargain rack at Value City, etc.
- I read up on pregnancy books and forums all the time so I’d know what to expect
- I’ve already designed a budget for pregnancy first year baby expenses, and factored that into my current income
- I’m kind to children and unlike everybody else on the bus, I don’t mind if babies on bus or train start crying. I just continue to smile sweetly at them.
- I’m a law abiding citizen that does good to others. I’m not going to get arrested anytime soon!
- Speaking of…I don’t do any illegal drugs and I only drink rarely. I do not smoke.

Oh but apparently Axy STILL doesn’t think I’m “ready” for a baby:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhAuKJ5pGF5JpnhALK8YDlLsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080811112322AADM8kW

WTF? What is the point if tolerating screaming babies on the bus and even taking the bus at all to save money towards having a baby, if people are going to STILL see me as “not ready”??

I’m almost 26, the age that my parents and most of my friends’ parents were when they had us…the age that a lot of people are starting to have kids at. Please do not tell me I’m immature for my age after I’ve worked so freakin hard.

What else does it take?? What else does it take to prove that I really AM ready to get pregnant???? ***?
EDIT: It appears Axy has changed her screenname to catdog_7.
Fraggler, I DO feel ready…I’m just trying to convey this to others. I’m sick and tired of people telling me that I’ll “ruin my life” if I have a kid(yes, people STILL tell me that to this day!), yet they’ll congratulate the very people that have stolen from me, betrayed me, or cheated on me, on THEIR pregnancies. I’m sick of it.
Dawniesu, thank you for supporting me. I wish I’d think Axy is jealous, but to be 100% honest I do not think ‘jealous’ is what she is. I wrote that *I* was jealous that a jerk(who stole from me in the past) was having a baby and getting congratulated whereas I was flamed and then miscarried. If anything, I was probably the jealous one…who knows, maybe she’s the jerk’s baby momma for all I know.

Sylvester